I’m sure you’re getting to that point where you’re thinking maybe I over reacted? He wasn’t a bad guy. Sure, he had some flaws, but we all do. I’m not perfect, so why did I expect so much from him?
And with the holidays fast approaching I’m sure it’s tempting to call, SnapChat, text, something to get his attention again because sometimes the holidays suck alone, but that doesn’t mean you should take him back. Whenever you start feeling tempted to reach out to him, just remember that…
You never got a text when he got home at night after a night out with his buddies so you knew he was home safe or that he never answered the phone when you called, or at least called you back in a reasonable time frame. You should also think about the times that you caught him snapchatting other girls or that he hardly showed up on time when you made plans to hang out.
Deep down you know that he was nothing but a douche but the holiday spirit is somehow clouding your judgment. You’re starting to think that even though he wasn’t “perfect” he’s better than no one. FALSE! You deserve the world and not some guy who’s going to bring you down and doesn’t respect you.
You weren’t asking for much from him. And yet, he failed you. He failed to text you and let you know he was safe and sound even after you asked repeatedly. He never answered the phone when you called and always had an excuse as to why he didn’t answer or call you back.
Let’s be honest, whether you call it cheating or not he always had a line of girls waiting to take your place. So yes, you REALLY are better off alone. You are better off just telling everyone you’re still single than going back to his crap.
So I know it’s hard. The holidays are hard. Facing family alone and being the only one left single in the family sucks, but you don’t want him back. You want the idea of him back.
You want the illusion of a good relationship to get your family off your back. You want the picture perfect life that you always dreamed you’d have. You want the man you grew up thinking you’d end up with and build a life with.
Just wait a little while longer. You’ll find a loving, caring man. The man you can tell your secrets to and plan a life with. The man who your family adores. And the man that adores you. The one that doesn’t make you ask for simple things like honesty and respect.
All those long car drives alone to the family may suck now, but you know deep down you’d rather make them alone than to continue to put yourself through the stress and the crap you went through with him. You don’t want to cry yourself to sleep over him anymore and you really don’t want to explain to your family why you all broke up in a few months at the next family event.
You are strong. You will make it through this and you will do it with your head held high. I know from experience the holidays can suck when you’re single, especially when you’re the only one single, but you really don’t want to take him back.